Catherine Fournier
© Copyright 1997-2005 Domestic Church Communications Ltd.
One summer afternoon several years ago, I was driving down Bank Street in our little green car. My three and a half year old daughter and 18 month old son were in the back seat. I was on my way to my in-laws house where we were renovating a basement apartment. It was an ordinary bleak day, full of responsibilites, duties and endless chores.
Suddenly, my thoughts cleared. It was as if I had driven out of a dark tunnel and into bright sunshine. I could remember again, I could imagine planning tomorrow's activities, I felt peaceful. I also realised that I hadn't felt like that for over a year.
I had had severe Post Partum Depression.
Baby blues and more. Up to 80 percent of new mothers experience some degree of depression. This depression can vary from a mild form, commonly known and dismissed as 'baby blues' which only lasts a few days, to severe depression which can last weeks or even months. The latter, more severe form, affects between 10 and 20 percent of women after childbirth, and can seriously affect the health and harmony of the entire family.
Women normally experience several major biological changes in their lives; the onset of menstruation, pregnancy, postpartum and menopause, as well as the monthly cycle of hormonal shifts. It's likely, though unproven scientifically, that these hormonal changes play a part in the incidence of depression in women, and specifically in Post Partum Depression.
In addition, feelings of anxiety about caring for an infant, a change in life style from 'working woman' to stay-at-home mother, or from 'mom of one' to 'mother of two', worries about money, parental interference, a high-need infant, and a variety of other factors (most of which applied in my case) can contribute to depression.
Symptoms of Post Partum Depression: If any of these symptoms start after the first two weeks after birth, and last for more than two weeks, they may indicate Post Partum Depression.
Post Partum emotional disorders and often misunderstood and unrecognized by family, friends and health professionals. Many new mothers who report these symptoms are told that they are normal and to be expected as 'part of having a baby'. Occasionally, they are told that they are somehow rejecting their baby, or are not appreciative enough of the great gift God has given them. None of this is true. There is no fault or blame or spiritual failing attached to experiencing Post Partum Depression, it is simply a chemical imbalance like gestational diabetes, or eclampsia. And just like gestational diabetes or pre-eclampsia, some cases can be managed with some simple coping measures at home, but more severe forms may require medical intervention.
Coping MeasuresIf the Post Partum Depression is severe, the mother may not be helped by the above measures, or may not be able to take any action to help herself. In my case, admitting that I had a problem was virtually impossible, to do so would have been admitting to my worse fears - that somehow I was a bad and unfit mother.
If you or someone you know exhibits any of the symptoms listed above, or feels powerless to improve their life, be as persistent as you can in getting help. Keep looking and asking until you get some understanding and assistance. There are many health professionals and social workers trained in this area, and able to offer advice, support and if necessary, medical intervention.
Conclusion 16 years later, I still have little memory of my son's first 18 months of life. I can't remember Christmas, his first birthday, when he walked, or his first smile. Still, I feel very fortunate that I somehow pulled out of the depression, and didn't have a re-occurrence after any of my other children's births. Still, I wish someone had noticed that something was out of order and had pushed me to get help sooner.
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